Last Updated on August 29, 2020 by Shevy
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How To Cope With A Lack Of Support
How to cope with a lack of support from family and friends? Support is one of the hardest topics I have had to write about since my blogging journey. About two weeks ago I did all my research and started putting together the points I wanted to discuss.
But every time I tried to get my thoughts together I couldn’t get the creative juices flowing. Eventually I decided to leave it alone and kept it in draft for keepsake.
This morning as I was making my daily rounds on Facebook I saw someone posted in a Facebook Group asking some of the same questions I intended to address on a lack of support.
Realizing that I was not the only one affected by this, suddenly I was determined to finish writing if it meant helping someone. So let’s dive into some of the ways you can cope with a lack of support from your peers.
Today I want to talk (rant) about support because I am a big fan of supporting people and it affects me every day. Whether it be family, friend or stranger, once I find interest in their work I contribute in whatever way I can. It could be a word of advice, encouragement, financial means or physically.
Have you ever realized how hard it is to get support from the people that means the most to you? Thank God for blessing me with a supportive mother, sister and few friends. For the most part they back me one hundred percent in all my endeavours and for that I am grateful.
The Blogging Community
I joined several blogging groups on Facebook where I see the genuine effort of the Creators to provide a platform for cross-promotion and sharing of content amongst Bloggers, and I commend them for that. But what bothers me the most is the lack of consensus that occurs within said groups.
Don’t get me wrong, we all want to promote and grow our blog or business but a lot of people are in it for their own selfish benefits. I discussed this issue in a post which you can read here.
Numbers Play A Big Role
Some say numbers don’t mean a thing but I disagree.
Why do we feel compelled to leave a meaningful comment below a blog post or like the pictures of the most popular people on social media but when it comes to our friends we think twice?
We scroll pass persons with 50 followers but follow the ones that already have thousands and millions of followers.
Here are the Top Reasons why People don’t Support you:
- Not everyone believes in you and your goals. Your goals may seem unrealistic to some.
- You are not as popular or established so you seem inferior to them.
- Some successful people forget where they come from.
- They are selfish.
- They are intimidated by your success so they don’t want you to do better than them.
- They are insecure.
- They don’t see the hard work and effort you put in.
- They want to mimic your success.
- There are no profit or financial rewards for them.
- Last but not least, they don’t support you because you don’t support them.
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I believe that support has to be reciprocated. In order to get support you need to be supportive of other people. So I want to encourage everyone of you to reach out to someone in need. A family, friend, neighbour or even stranger.
I am not saying to give random people money to start a business because it sounds like a good idea. All I am saying is be a good friend. Offer some good advice and see if it comes back to you.
It is difficult to know that you have receive something nice from someone and not say thanks or show any appreciation in return. Well its the same feeling with support. The more you start encouraging and appreciating people I believe its given back.
How to Cope with a lack of support:
- First things first, safeguard yourself from disappointments and don’t expect people to support you.
- Separate your personal space from your business/blog etc. This is something that I have done and I do not regret doing it. When I started my blog I created a separate page for that purpose only.
- Accept the fact that not everyone who comes into your life is genuine. Sad to say but sometimes a stranger may faster show you love than friends you’ve known all your life.
- Do not feel intimated by a lack of support. Don’t let a lack of support keep you from moving forward.
- Be honest with yourself. If you cannot genuinely support people don’t do it. Put out the energy you want to receive.
- Success doesn’t happen overnight. Don’t give up, the purpose is in the process.
- Work hard on building and promoting your business. Eventually you will see things coming together.
- Not because you do not get support means you can’t achieve your goals.. You can do it without their support!
- Study the psychology of mindset.
I appreciate the hard working, honest Bloggers like myself who utilize their forum to genuinely connect with like-minded people.
I know it is impossible to follow back every single person who follows you on social media but I believe if I want to see a change it should start with me.
How do you cope with a lack of support from friends or family members?
HOW TO USE NEGATIVE PEOPLE TO YOUR ADVANTAGE
Sometimes we find ourselves in situations where we have to put up with negative people and situations. So these are some of the strategies that shows you how to use negative people to your advantage. Most times we may not have control over a situation but there are ways in which we can use it to our advantage. Depending on how toxic the environment, it may take more than these suggestions in this post. Most times you have to be God filled, focused and strong-willed because if not, it can consume you. Whenever I have to deal with negative people or I’m in difficult situations this is what I do…
DEALING WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE
DON’T TAKE IT PERSONAL
Usually, it is never about you but rather, the individual may be hurting, dealing with personal issues or unhappy. You have to understand that some people can not separate their personal life from their work life. As a result of this, they walk around with their baggage and other people can be affected negatively too. Once you recognize that their actions are not by any means in direct relation to you, it helps to ignore them.
LEARN THEIR EMOTIONAL STATE
If you can not avoid them or the situation then learn their emotional state. So that you are better at predicting their actions so when you see the signs of them acting up, you would be better able to respond.
READ A BOOK
It is good to always have a book with you because you never know when you might need it. Challenge yourself to read a little bit every day and you will be surprised to see how many books you complete. Whether it is a romance novel, fiction or educational book, reading has its benefits.
LISTEN TO MUSIC OR YOUR FAVOURITE PLAYLIST
Music has a magical way of clearing your mind and putting you in another zone. This is exactly what you want to do if you find it hard to shift focus to something positive. Use headphones if you are at work and turn up the volume as loud as you like. But pay attention to your surroundings at work, as you do not want to be totally withdrawn. Listening to music is a great way to past time and block out negative people and bad vibes.
REFLECT ON SELF AND EVALUATE
It may be the perfect opportunity to reflect on your weaknesses and implement steps on how you can improve. In some instances, the problem tends to be with ourselves and reflecting and evaluating helps you see things clearly. Perhaps you are giving off a bad vibe to your colleagues subconsciously and their behaviour could be a reaction of yours.
DO NOT REACT
Keep calm – sometimes people do things to get a reaction out of you. Do not give in or stoop to their level by responding in a similar manner. Do not be like them or let them change you, instead let it go because you are better than that.
START A BUSINESS
Work on that business idea you had on hold for so long. Turn that negative energy into something positive. Think about problems you face on a daily basis and about ways you can solve them. Sell online and make that dream a reality by improving other people’s lives. That is how most businesses are developed anyways.
LAUNCH A BLOG
Maybe you always wanted to start a blog but never got around to doing it. Let your present situation motivate you into getting it up and running. Build a community and blog about your experiences. Offer advice and provide solutions to persons who might be going through something similar.
At the end of the day we are all human beings and getting upset can’t be avoided sometimes. When that happens, talk to a friend or work colleague you can confide in as this helps most of the time.
THINK HAPPY THOUGHTS
Reminisce on something that makes you happy like being at the beach or hanging with girlfriends. Soon enough you will be imagining that you are in that moment and your mood will change.
If all of these methods fail, silence may be the best answer. My grandmother used to always say that if you do not have anything good to say then say nothing. One of life’s best lesson is doing exactly that so that you can never be misquoted. Remember you are in charge of your emotions and you should never give the enemy that much power over you.
Hope you enjoyed this post and share it with someone you think it would benefit.