How To Cope With A Lack Of Support

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How To Cope With A Lack Of Support

Support is one of the hardest topics I have had to write about since my blogging journey. About two weeks ago I did all my research and started putting together the points I wanted to discuss. But every time I tried to get my thoughts together I couldn’t get the creative juices flowing. Eventually I decided to leave it alone and kept it in draft for keepsake.

This morning as I was making my daily rounds on Facebook I saw someone posted in a Facebook Group asking  some of the same questions I intended to address on a lack of support.

Realizing that I was not the only one affected by this, suddenly I was determined to finish writing if it meant helping someone.

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What does support mean

Support means to give approval, comfort, or encouragement to.- google

Today I want to talk (rant) about support because I am a big fan of supporting people and it affects me every day. Whether it be family, friend or stranger, once I find interest in their work I contribute in whatever way I can. It could be a word of advice, encouragement, financial means or physically.

Have you ever realized how hard it is to get support from the people that means the most to you? Thank God for blessing me with a supportive mother, sister and few friends. For the most part they back me one hundred percent in all my endeavours and for that I am grateful.

The Blogging Community

I joined several blogging groups on Facebook where I see the genuine effort of the Creators to provide a platform for cross-promotion and sharing of content amongst Bloggers, and I commend them for that. But what bothers me the most is the lack of consensus that occurs within said groups.

Don’t get me wrong, we all want to promote and grow our blog or business but a lot of people are in it for their own selfish benefits.  I discussed this issue in a post which you can read here.

Numbers Play A Big Role

Some say numbers don’t mean a thing but I disagree.

Why do we feel compelled to leave a meaningful comment below a blog post or like the pictures of the most popular people on social media but when it comes to our friends we think twice?

We scroll pass persons with 50 followers but follow the ones that already have thousands and millions of followers.

Here are the Top Reasons why People don’t Support you:

  1. Not everyone believes in you and your goals. Your goals may seem unrealistic to some.
  2. You are not as popular or established so you seem inferior to them.
  3. Some successful people forget where they come from.
  4. They are selfish.
  5. They are intimidated by your success so they don’t want you to do better than them.
  6. They are insecure.
  7. They don’t see the hard work and effort you put in.
  8. They want to mimic your success.
  9. There are no profit or financial rewards for them.
  10. Last but not least, they don’t support you because you don’t support them.


I believe that support has to be reciprocated. In order to get support you need to be supportive of other people. So I want to encourage everyone of you to reach out to someone in need. A family, friend, neighbour or even stranger.

I am not saying to give random people money to start a business because it sounds like a good idea. All I am saying is be a good friend. Offer some good advice and see if it comes back to you.

It is difficult to know that you have receive something nice from someone and not say thanks or show any appreciation in return. Well its the same feeling with support. The more you start encouraging and appreciating people I believe its given back.

 How to Cope with a lack of support:

  1. First things first, safeguard yourself from disappointments and don’t expect people to support you.
  2. Separate your personal space from your business/blog etc. This is something that I have done and I do not regret doing it. When I started my blog I created a separate page for that purpose only.
  3. Accept the fact that not everyone who comes into your life is genuine. Sad to say but sometimes a stranger may faster  show you love than friends you’ve known all your life.
  4. Do not feel intimated by a lack of support. Don’t let a lack of support keep you from moving forward.
  5. Be honest with yourself. If you cannot genuinely support people don’t do it. Put out the energy you want to receive.
  6. Success doesn’t happen overnight. Don’t give up, the purpose is in the process.
  7. Work hard on building and promoting your business. Eventually you will see things coming together.
  8. Not because you do not get support means you can’t achieve your goals.. You can do it without their support!


I appreciate the hard working, honest Bloggers like myself who utilize their forum to genuinely connect with like-minded people.

I know it is impossible to follow back every single person who follows you on social media but I believe if I want to see a change it should start with me.

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  • So I found you on the FB group. I love your blog and your style of writing. Reminds me of myself. Certainly following you 🙂 fb has a way of helping people connect more. Glad I found you

    • Shevy

      Thank you Jill. For all the love and support 😀

  • Great pointers in the post. I agree that not everyone will believe in what you want to do, or will accept what you want to offer. At times its due to jealousy or competitiveness, but sometimes its just down to personal taste. However, I think you’ve highlighted a very important truthful staright talking topic here. Thanks for sharing.

    • Shevy

      Thanks so much Kiyshia for your input. Appreciate it.

  • Great pointers! Although I think support should work both ways.

    • Shevy

      Thanks Samantha! I think so too.

  • I have people in my life that don’t understand why I choose to blog and that’s okay. The hard part is learning not personalize their opinions. I love your coping advice. I think it’ll be extremely helpful to anyone that encounters non supportive people.

    • Shevy

      Hi Kwame, thank you! Not everything in our lives were meant for everyone to understand and that’s ok.

  • I completely agree with you about this article. This is so truly reasons way people don’t support us !!! Great post very powerful words!

    • Shevy

      Thank you Ance!

  • Hello Shevy,

    You are so right with this article. since I started blogging my friends list got smaller to be honest and I realised that they don’t support me enough or some not at all, probably because they don’t believe that someone can actually make it in this career. However, I still have 3 left that are helping and listening to me when I need it. The others that don’t support me they just make me want to grow more and more to prove them wrong.

    • Shevy

      Hi Mihaela, I am happy to know that you have some loyal friends on your side. That’s all that matters. xo

  • MaryAnne

    Totally agree! WE need to receive support and feel you´re important too, in that way we feel better when suppporting others

  • I totally understand your point of view and couldn’t agree more! I think it is also because not many people take blogging as a serious job and understand that it is a lot of hard work.

    xx, Kusum |

    • Shevy

      That is so true Kusum. Good point there.

  • This is right on point! I wrote on a similar topic a while back. It’s so important to know who you are and not worry about the support or lack there of. I used to have some feelings about it but realized some of the points you made above and just made sure to separate business and personal.

    • Shevy

      Thank you Natasha! Happy that you can relate to this post as well.

  • What a powerful post. I 100% agree. I feel like there is a give-and-take and if you do too much giving without receiving anything in return, it can feel exhausting.

    • Shevy

      Thank you Divya

  • I love the statement at the end of your post. “It should start with me” I truly believe that we have to lead by example.

    • Shevy

      Thank you Tasheena 🙂

  • You’re one of the few bloggers that I really like reading (and I’m not saying this to receive a comment or a like back)! The thing you said about “We scroll pass persons with 50 followers but follow the ones that already have thousands and millions of followers.” really stuck with me, because it is so true! Thank you for sharing. x

    • Shevy

      Hi Georgiana. I am really glad that you can relate to what I said. Thank you so much for your input. Its people like you motivate me to keep going. xo

  • I loved this! Thank you so much for spreading truth. I think it’s so important to show support to others. Sometimes it’s hard when we don’t get that same level of support back from someone we helped, but it will always find its way back into our lives eventually.

    • Shevy

      Thank you Innana! I absolutely agree with you. xo

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